I just found this draft of notes I wrote about “A day in the life” with our son when he was 2 months old. This was written in June 2017, and it’s like reading the diary of someone else. It’s so crazy.
In honor of starting this process all over again in just a few short weeks with Ldubbs, I present to you, “A day in the life of a 2 month old baby”:
6:30AM BDubbs Wakes Up
Wake up. Bdubbs often gives us about 10-12 hours each night, and he just recently started going to bed earlier. For a long time his last feeding was at 10PM, but lately it’s been more like 8PM. The downside is waking up earlier, but once JHubbs and I get our schedule together to go to bed close after him, that won’t be a problem any more.
Note from 2018: Lol! Bdubbs is now 16 months, and we still haven’t gotten our schedule together in order to be able to go to bed right after him. We just like having time to decompress, eat dinner, and watch TV in peace… it’s really hard to give that up, even if we do get more sleep on the nights when we eat dinner while Bdubbs is still awake. Anyone else struggle with that?
Once I hear him wake up, I get up and start a 6OZ bottle for him. Then I use the restroom and (if he isn’t fussing yet) brush my teeth, turn the wash, or straighten up the nursing station. After he eats, he’s up for 45MIN-1HR before he goes back to bed.
After his first meal, I breastpump and eat breakfast, then try to lay down and go back to sleep. On an unfortunate day, he wakes up the minute I try to lay down and we start the process all over again. On a day of great Sleep Blessings From God, he and I will sleep until 8:30AM (or some variation of 2 hours after he first goes down).
9AM Second Feeding
We get up for another feeding, this time about 4OZ. On a good day, we’ll eat and then quickly go for a walk before he gets sleepy again. Then he’ll go to sleep within 20 minutes of being back home.
Note from 2018: I can’t clearly remember, but I think at this point I still couldn’t drive myself because of the c-section recovery, so walking places was my only way to get out of the house. Otherwise, surely I would have driven to one of the places we like to go now, like the Children’s Museum or the local indoor play place Cartwheels & Coffee.
The Rest of the Day: Nonsense
This is where regularity ends. We’re on a 2HR cycle that depends on when he wakes up that day, but it’s basically: wake, take 15-20 minutes to eat 4OZ and burp, then stay awake 45-60 minutes. So I never quite know when I’ll be able to do something/go somewhere until I know when he’s woken up for a nap. This is fine because by the grace of God I can stay home with him, but it’s a pain in the butt for: doctor’s appointments, having visitors, scheduling any kind of work call, being on the phone in general (he could always wake up), etc.
Note from 2018: I’m playing it cool in this section, but not being able to have any reasonable schedule for the day was really stressful then and it’s still really stressful. It’s the boundaries problem where you have all of the responsibility (appointments that need to be made) and none of the control (a baby that needs to sleep at home or he loses it). This still blows up on me from time to time, like a few weeks ago when I needed to be somewhere at 2:30PM and Bdubbs woke up early that morning, guaranteeing that he’d need to nap from 2-3:30PM. After having a meltdown myself, I had to call Jhubbs to come home from work and rescue me.
As my mom would say, I just have to get over it. Things will be unpredictable with a baby, and everyone’s been really generous with their time and attention when I’m late or distracted, but I think this is just a part of me that needs to grow a little bit still.
5:30PM JHubbs Gets Home
Over the summer, JHubbs works 10-hour days 4 days a week (home on Fridays) until his summer break, then again through August. It’s been really hard to have him gone for such a long day, but it means he’s extra happy to swoop in and take over Bdubbs duty because he misses him so much!
We’re still working out a rhythm for this time, so it can look a lot of different ways:
- On an unfortunate day, I stress out and can’t help but dive into house stuff (cleaning, cooking, moving things around). Then I freak out around 8PM when JHubbs needs a break, I need a break, and Bdubbs still needs to be cuddled to sleep.
- On a blessed day, I step outside and sit in the sun for a second. All things seem doable. Then I come back in and feel centered about whatever we need to do.
- On a middling day we’ll have a visitor (which is always fun to catch up with someone, but always stressful to not be “on a schedule” for dinner and a good bedtime).
- On another middling day (when dinner is already planned or ready), I take the elevator downstairs to a spare room in our building to do an hour of work. Often this is just checking emails and sending pitch emails, but it’s been good to dip my toes into the work world for a second, and we’re so blessed to have a nice room like that (with wi-fi, I discovered!) that’s so close by but also separate from home so I can focus.
Note from 2018: I know I keep saying this, but this is so crazy! I remember those days I got to go outside without Bdubbs for the first time that day around 5:30 PM and it felt so surreal to be out in the world, like, “This was going on the whole time out here?” I also can’t believe I was doing all this 24/7 without childcare help. We have a nanny now (for about 10-15 hours a week when I’m working regularly) and I regularly feel like she’s an angel sent from God to make this whole thing possible (and more importantly… Bdubbs loves her!).
That’s all for now… isn’t it crazy how much things can change, and how much you can forget? For example, I don’t remember him sleeping 10-12 hours that early on in his life. The story in my mind is that he never sleeps. So, this is proof that at one point that was happening!
I don’t feel particularly prepared to go through all this again. Mostly it feels like we’re about to fling ourselves off of a big cliff, but this time holding hands with an 18-month-old. Reading blogs about adding a second kid to the family helps, though, so if you have any of those to recommend please send them my way!