Baby time is in full swing! We hit 31 weeks this past weekend, and I am grateful for every minute.
It still doesn’t feel like it’s real. I have an anterior placenta, which means the placenta is on the top (behind my belly button) and there’s a baby-sized pillow between the baby and me. That means I feel very rare kicks that are very light when they happen.
For me and my pregnancy fears, this is a wonderful thing, but it does make it hard for JHubbs to feel anything or to feel like this is a 24/7 reality. The kicks have been getting more frequently as baby grows, but it’s still pretty light stuff.
You know what makes it feel real, though? The baby belongings that are building up in the closet!
We have a growing closet of baby things from very generous friends and family, so there’s a little pile of swaddling clothes and onesies (cute), a sweater and a stuffed bunny (also cute), and leggings (beyond cute).
We’re also slowly gathering some bigger items that those generous friends and families are passing down to us, like a baby swing, crib, and high chair. These items are mostly foldable space-savers, but it’s starting to make me appreciate what we’re going to deal with living in a 2BR apartment. Let’s just say my theme for the year is minimalism…
When nesting kicks in, I think it’s going to take the form of even more purging. We’re being a little tougher about which books we keep on our shelf, and we’re letting go of a lot of things we’ve been moving from house to house without using (that might be the one positive of moving twice in one year… it made it really clear what we use!).
So, as the weeks drift slowly towards the big day, let the finance nerd step forward! I was really interested to read J Money’s accounting of how much a baby cost, so I thought I’d gather a few expenses we’ve been hit with for pregnancy. (I don’t think we’ll do a baby-expense tracker — I’ll be focused enough on finances as it is).
- Food changes, uncalculable. I cringe to think what it’s cost us to grocery shop every day or other day based on what I feel like I can tolerate. As a result of lots of praying, we’re on track to meal plan again and focus on leftovers, which has already enormously helped this week’s grocery bill. I’m finding I can also tolerate more foods, so that helps, too.
- Prenatals and general medical stuff, $500. I tried a few different prenatals before I settled on the right one for about $45 a month (Thorne Basic Nutrients V). I’m also going to lump a few life-saving supplements like Magnesium Buffered Chelate ($55), and co-pays, homeopathic appointments, and $7 and $15 bills into this bucket.
- Reusable pads from Hesta, $90. My first test-order of Hesta’s organic reusable pads worked out great, so I just ordered 6 more (this cost is for 12 total pads). The disposable pads are a) a financial nightmare and b) lead to a lot of chafing real fast, so the reusable has been a life-saver.
- Two tank tops, black slacks, and yoga pants from Motherhood, $65. They don’t have plus sizes for these tank tops, but the XL is delightfully stretchy and has worked great.
- Two pairs of maternity jeans, one pair of black pants, and two tops from Macy’s, $135. Two pairs of jeans and one pair of slacks has gotten me through all 7 months just fine. Then again, I work from home, so I definitely count myself lucky!
- 5+ tops from PinkBlush, $185+. I found PinkBlush and got really addicted to trying out their clearance shirts. I loooove the tops, but I hate how much I spent on returns (and I’m still fussing with a maternity robe return… Beware those scratchy fabrics!).
- New underwear as my size fluctuates, $60. Mainly I had to buy all new pairs in one size larger because I had cut so many of the smaller size to be more comfortable at night.
When we got started, I was worried I’d have to spend a lot on maternity clothes, but then I lost weight in the first trimester so I could make do with most of my regular tops for the bump. Now, though, I got into the fun “there’s only three more months to rock this stuff!” and “what if this is the only time God lets us be pregnant?” and I started splurging on slightly less than necessary but still basics kind of things…. I’m just gonna roll with it.
Top Exhibit A, super stylish in a size maternity 3X.
Since I was overweight before pregnancy, a lot of the tops I’m buying will make perfectly fine post-maternity clothes, too, and PinkBlush has been making me drool with their “extra 50% off clearance” sales. Besides that, I’m not sure I’ll ever go back to regular jeans. Maternity jeans are so comfortable!
But if anyone in the fashion industry is reading (lol) please make some Tall sizes. Where I’m at now, I either hike them up Urkel-style so the stretchy part is on the top of the bump (but then the bottom band cuts off my stomach all weird), or I get the bottom band in the right place and the stretchy part cuts off my bump. Either way, it’s less flattering as I go.
So far, I’m hoping the baby spending turns out to be like pregnancy spending — you can certainly spend a lot, but you can also just decide not to spend a lot.